My son is 2.5 and just recently learned how to potty train. In today’s America this could mean early or late since the spectrum for potty training ranges from 5 minutes old to 5 years old. It’s like breastfeeding.
Anyway, my son learned how to poop on the potty when he was 2 years and 3 months old. He was self motivated and excited. We had been sitting him on the potty since he was a year old so I assumed he’d be done before 2. My sister successfully potty trained my nephew that way and so I thought, this is how it is, right? How hard could it be? You can laugh at me now if you want 😅 I know I am.
I have successfully helped to potty train my little sister and kids I have nannied. The thing is, every kid is different. And it doesn’t matter how many advice books you read or your “tried and true method.” Your kid doesn’t care what that doctor with 3 PhDs says. They’re gonna do them.
After my son started pooping for a couple of days, he just decided to stop doing it, in true 2 fashion. We are balls to the wall in the “no” phase of toddlerhood right now, it’s so much fun… I know regression is common but somehow I thought we’d just get lucky because he was THAT excited.
Not so. Pretty soon he demanded diapers. There was no reasoning with him. He’d hold in his poop until his tummy was so full and then even still he’d refuse the potty. He’d poop on the floor, he didn’t care. So I accepted my losses and simply went back to diapers. Disposables though because I was so sick of peeling toddler poop out of cloth and that wasn’t happening anymore. Judge me, its fine. 😂
So I would ask him every time he had to poop if he would like to sit on the potty. He said no every time. So I’d say, “Okay!” But I never stopped offering. I noticed he would wake up dry 9 days out of 10 and knew he was capable of controlling his bladder and timing his business. So I just waited. It was a gorgeous summer and so I decided I would give it a serious go this winter when the weather was frigid… they say half of potty training is the parent being ready and I have learned this is absolutely true. He wasn’t ready, and I wasn’t ready to fight that.
Then at night, conveniently at 2am or so, he’d wake me up to “poop” –he learned that if he just said he had to pee that I would tell him to go in the diaper (I know, judging again 😂) but listen guys, I wake up at 3:45 in the morning with my husband and so I wanted sleep more than I wanted toilet training perfection. But I eventually would give in and take him. He’d sit, sometimes for 2 minutes, sometimes for 20… sometimes pee, sometimes not. Never poop.
This went on for weeks.
Then, one day? He just woke up in the morning, ripped off his diaper like a real-life chip n dale, yelled, “Big penis, okay?!” And did the dang thang. 🤣 He strutted his stuff to the bathroom loud and proud and asked to sit on the potty. He went peepee, I asked if he was finished, he said yes but didn’t want to get up–he even brushed his teeth on there. When he was satisfied, he asked to come down, took two steps and then turned and said, “Uh Oh! Poop!” He asked to get back up and pushed one out.
And then he was potty trained.
I’ve waited a month to write this post because I didn’t want to jinx myself. But so far no regression. He has asked me once for a diaper and once to his Grandpa but we just laugh and explain how he’s a big boy now. I have officially packed away the cloth diapers and packed up the changing station and I couldn’t be more relieved!
So Momma’s, if you are feeling the pressure. Take it from me, the recovering control freak– your little ones will cross this bridge when they are ready. In my son’s case, he is just as stubborn as I am and the more I push him, the more he pulls away defiantly. And so I’ve learned to work with that. Give a little time, give a little space, and work on his terms. It is so very worth it, I promise you.
Love and light.
The morning it finally happened! Proud boy! 🎉
September 1, 2017